What do I have to do to get you to listen? It doesn't seem like you hear me when you "listen" to me.
I just want you to pay attention to what hurts me.
It's beginning to become a very physical pain.
What is left for me to do?
I've tried approaching you and talking about it.
It obviously didn't stick.
What is left for me to do?
That is the best thing I could have done in this situation.
Do I need to write up a list so you can see everything at once?
Like rules?
Is that what you want?
I don't want to be that girl but if that's what it takes for you to stop hurting me, I'll do it.
Self-preservation is human's first instinct, right?
I don't think I'm asking too much really.
- Don't flirt with other girls.
- Flirting includes: complimenting them in innappropriate ways (gorgeous, beautiful, hot, sexy, etc)
saying 'I love you' even jokingly
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innappropriate talk (most importantly about sex)
- Give me even half of the attention you give other girls publicly.
- "Public" meaning anything from when we're out together to stupid little things on Facebook.
- Just because you're 21 doesn't mean you have to drink.
- Don't get on my case about doing what everyone else does, when you do, especially when it comes to alcohol.
- Tell me when you're drinking.
- This might be the one instance where I feel like you could fight me on legitimacy. To be honest, it makes a difference to me. I just want to know. It makes me feel more comfortable. And who knows, maybe telling me will make you realize just how much you're doing it.
- Don't literally drink and drive.
- I don't like it. I don't want it. It's illegal. Don't do it. It pisses me off. I don't like you driving after having had a few drinks, but I know I can't stop that so at least do this.
- Don't text and drive.
- I've repeatedly told you I don't like it. Why do you keep doing it? Just stop. It really scares me.
- At least try to be personable around my friends and family.
- I know we have a lot of the same friends, but the few that I have that aren't friends with you, please, try to have fun. Socialize or something. Please.
- Please try to make an effort with my family too. I know you don't like "meeting parents" or whatever, but you've met them now a bunch of times. Please be there for me. Come to family events when I invite you and socialize. Please. My family is the single most important thing to me and if for whatever reason they decide they don't like you, my choice will be whatever they decide. Don't make me choose. Please just make this effort. For me. Please.
Am I asking too much? Am I being ridiculous? Writing this list has brought me to tears.
I just want answers. I want to see change. I've changed more than I'm willing to admit for you.
They aren't huge changes; just little ones.
Little things go a lot further than guys think. Than you think.
It hurts so much that we've made it this far and these things are still an issue for me.
I just want to know that you care enough not to hurt me anymore.
Please.
Make an effort in our relationship.
I'm begging you.
