What is love? Baby don't hurt me...

Who gets to say what love is or isn't? It's such a strong feeling and yet a person can never be sure if what they are feeling is really love or not. It's my personal opinion that it is okay to be scared to fall in love. Why shouldn't you be scared? To open up your life, and heart, to someone like that, on such a high level of trust, is terrifying. I can't possibly be the only one who thinks so. yet why doesn't the male gender understand? They seem to  just take advantage of the fact that they can control us women through our feelings. When does it switch? Just once I would love to be in control of a man and use his feelings as the strings that  make him move, like a maestro manipulates his puppets. Perhaps this is a bitter view, but I am sick and tired of being tricked into revealing my feelings and then getting absolutely nothing in return. Could this be the root of my commitment problem? It's ironic that the only reason I can't have a decent relationship with a man is because of men themselves.